Rev. Dard Aller
(20 minutes)
Christian
Ceremony with Hawaiian Elements
Rev. Dard Aller
(20 minutes)
Music
Processional
(Giving Away of the Bride)
For the beauty that surrounds us, for the peace it brings, for the joy we are about to experience, we are all enormously grateful.
Let us pray: Father, we thank you for your divine love that is revealed to us in Christ and for the love in the hearts of (Groom) and (Bride) that brings them now into the union of marriage. Guide and bless them through all of life, in the name of the Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit. Amen.
Lei
Exchange
Also, each individual flower that is woven into the Lei loses none of its’ individual
beauty when it forms the circle. Its’ beauty is enhanced. Likewise In your marriage you do not compromise or
lose any of your individual identity and unique beauty.
In fact, because of the nurturing care and support of your relationship, you become
even more that special individual with whom your partner fell in love.
Dard hands a Lei to Groom.
(Groom), please place this Lei around the neck of your bride, and as you do so please give
her a kiss.
Hawaiian wedding are special. The kissing starts right away.
And likewise,
(Bride), place this Lei around the neck of your beloved with a kiss.
Hawaiian Marriage
The Hawaiians
have always had a sensitivity to the sacredness of special times and places. This is true of you as well as you have carefully
planned the location of your marriage. At the
end of this service I will use a lava rock and Ti leaf to perform a Hawaiian blessing that
commemorates this precious moment and sacred union.
There is an
additional significance as well. We see only
the surface of the A’ina. It is below,
unseen, where the depth of the land abides. So
also, we see and respect the outer expression
of your relationship together. Only the two
of you know the true and unseen depth of you inner union.
This can also
be compared to the beauty of the Pacific Ocean surrounding
us here on the Big Island, which you have chosen as the backdrop to your ceremony. We see constant changes on the surface of the sea. It is below, and unseen, where the teaming life of
the ocean resides.
You will face
constant change in the outer circumstances of your life, while drawing from within
yourself and your partner that rich and powerful inner spiritual strength that the
Hawaiians call Mana. Allow your partner to be
true to that inner life purpose and power.
And if we speak of A’ina and Ocean, let’s include as well the beauty of
the mountains that surround us; the Kohalas to the North of us, with Mauna Loa and Mauna
Kea to the east and Hualalai to the South. Even Haleakala
of Maui is often visible to the West. Telescopes are looking outward and upward,
making new discoveries there every day. Your
marriage is not only about inner depth and strength.
It is also a looking outward to the accomplishment of hopes, dreams and
aspirations. One of those dreams is being
fulfilled at this very moment. Continue to
reach out, not only for your own personal satisfaction but for the uplifting of your
Ohana, that circle of family, friends and community that will be enriched by your love and
care.
There is a
tradition here in Hawaii that when the wind stirs at a wedding, it is the presence of
absent loved ones and ancestors who surround you at this moment with their love, support
and blessing.
Always find
things to praise. Continue to say I love you. Make
no list of the occasional disappointments and conflicts that come between you. Embrace without restricting. Release and reassure
with tenderness. May the exchange of Leis be a symbol to you of a healthy
relationship, a giving and receiving, that mutual interchange that strengthens you both. Sometimes the simple gift of a flower speaks
deeper than words about the heart's desire for your relationship to blossom, to be
fragrant and to grow ever closer.
Let us Pray: Heavenly Father, what a joy it is to see a man and woman so much in love as these two. Bless them with your everlasting strength as they make their commitments to you and to each other. May these vows honor and glorify you and be a blessing to them, both now and forever more. Amen.
Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13 (selected verses)
Vows
(Groom) and (Wife), if you are ready to make your vows to God and to each other, turn to one another and join hands.
(Groom),
repeat these words after me if they are the desire of your heart:
I (Groom) take you (Bride), as my wedded wife...to have and to hold...from this day
forward...for better, for worse...for richer, for poorer...in sickness and in health...to
love...to cherish...to honor and support...and forsaking all others...to remain faithful
unto you...forever.
(Bride), repeat these words after me if they are the desire of your heart:
I (Bride) take you (Groom), as my wedded husband...to have and to hold...from this day forward...for better, for worse...for richer, for poorer...in sickness and in health...to love...to cherish...to honor and support...and forsaking all others...to remain faithful unto you...forever.
Rings
Are there rings to commemorate these vows and your love?
Dard hands a
Koa bowl to (Groom).
A few moments before this service I dipped this Koa wood bowl into the Pacific Ocean in order to perform a Hawaiian blessing over these rings. Koa, which is the hardest of our Hawaiian woods, has been used over the centuries to build the outrigger canoes, tools and utensils. It has come to represent integrity and strength; foundational qualities of your relationship. Marriage is more than just the beautiful passion and tender emotion of love. It is a foundational covenant based on faith, hope and love.
The Ti leaf represents prosperity, health and blessing of body, mind and spirit.
Dard dips a Ti leaf in the bowl, sprinkles the rings three times and chants:
Ei-Ah Eha-No. Ka Malohia Oh-Na-Lani. Mea A-Ku A-Pau.
“May
blessings from above rest upon you and remain with you now and forever.”
The water has a double significance. One is a
washing back into the Pacific, as it were, symbolically, of any hindrance to relationship. In Hawaiian this is called Ho’oponopono. Christ called it
reconciliation, so that the second aspect of the water might be deeply and joyfully true
for both of you today. It marks a brand new relationship as husband and wife.
(Groom), as you take this ring and place it upon your wife’s finger, please repeat
after me:
(Wife), with this ring...I thee wed...in the name of the Father...and the Son...and the
Holy Spirit....Amen
And likewise
(handing the ring to Wife)
(Groom), with this ring...I thee wed...in the name of the Father...and the Son...and the Holy Spirit....Amen
Let us Pray: Bless, O Lord, these rings, that they may be faithfully and honorably worn for a lifetime of love through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Hawaiian Wedding Song
Ti leaf and
Lava rock
As I mentioned at the beginning of the service, I now take this lava rock and Ti leaf to perform the final blessing. The rock represents this moment and place of your marriage - made sacred by your love. Wrapped in the leaf it is a traditional Hawaiian offering, prayer and blessing. You are to place it anywhere you choose on the island before you leave. It remains here. Your rings are with you everywhere you go, a reminder of your marriage and love. The rock marks your entrance into a promised land, that of marriage, full of rich promise and unlimited potential. May the joy of your many years together far exceed even your greatest expectation.
Let us Pray: Father, thank you for the wonderful gift of love. Nothing in all the world compares with love. It is unseen, yet it is more real than anything that can be seen. It binds people together so they can live through any difficulty, any heartache, any trial. We thank you Father that you have placed the miracle of your love in the heart of (Groom) and (Bride). We ask that the love they now feel for each other gradually grows into a deeper wisdom that is beyond human understanding. Help them know that a joy, when shared, is doubled, and a sorrow, when shared, is cut in half. Help them to discover that every experience together is an opportunity to learn something new about you and something new about each other. Bless them, the union of their families, and all of their life together. Amen.
Pronunciation
We have had a very special honor here today to witness your love and aloha, your exchange
of leis, vows, and rings. And now by the
authority that has been entrusted to me by the State of Hawaii, I pronounce that you are
Husband and Wife.
You may seal your vows with a kiss.
Ho’o-na-ni ka Ma-kua mau.
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